hafifah blogspot: Carolyn Hax: He wants a son. She’d settle for a responsible husband.

Tuesday, April 23, 2019

Carolyn Hax: He wants a son. She’d settle for a responsible husband.

He wants a son. She'd settle for a responsible husband.

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Dear Carolyn: My husband is a great father to our 6- and 4-year-old daughters, but he is a dud with children much younger than 4. I did nearly all the baby and toddler stuff by myself because he was too tired, too overwhelmed, too scared to break them and so on.

He wants a third baby — he does not say so, but he wants a boy — and while I'm sure I would love another baby, I don't want to do all the work alone again. When I say that to him, he promises to be more involved next time around, but I don't know whether I believe him and I don't know whether he really knows how to be more involved, or understands how far off the mark he was the last two times.